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Since 1997 I'm a professional foster parent at one of the excellent institution of Hungary's capital city. When I got there I had the preconception of five years of criticism and gossiping. I've heard a few bad story about this kind of institutions hence I was generalized them and I was angry at them in my heart. It wasn't even come to my mind to think again what I've heard. I was sure, that in this places everyone treats the kids in a wrong way. This thinking of mine was foolish.
Since 1997 I'm a professional foster parent at one of the excellent institution of Hungary's capital city. When I got there I had the preconception of five years of criticism and gossiping. I've heard a few bad story about this kind of institutions hence I was generalized them and I was angry at them in my heart. It wasn't even come to my mind to think again what I've heard. I was sure, that in this places everyone treats the kids in a wrong way. This thinking of mine was foolish.
I was
ashamed, when I realized, that they helped me to the best thing in this world:
I could get to know what it means to be a mother, even if I could not have a
child. Thankfully in a short time my opinion towards them was changed.
I have
understood, that many serious, dedicated, loving hearted people working for the
kids who are in the care of the government, to provide them the best from
everything.
For many
kids, the fact that they got out from their families saved their life.
I
remember when I first stepped into the assistant manager's room. From the wall,
the Lord Jesus Christ's image was encouraged me. I was happy, that he is a
believer. Then as I was looked into his eyes, I got afraid. I thought that he
sees into me.
He had an
open and clean countenance, his speech was straight and serious.
God
revealed for me that the assistant manager have authority and power from Him,
and that his life is full with the love towards this kids. I was very happy,
that he is not sentimental.
He and
the chief of the department was the first whom I've got to like, because I have
understood that we can trust in them.
He became
the legal guardian of Andráska. And an older, very kind lawyer become Little
Brave's legal guardian.
They can
not be cheated. In the church I was learning about that I should get myself
under others authority.
I've
experienced that the Lord blesses me if I do that. It wasn't easy as a single
to accept a man leader's authority and conforming to his decisions, but I have
learned that.
They
helped me in everything. Thy rented for us an apartment with three rooms, a
beautiful home. We painted and we put up the wallpapers, but they paid
everything. Since 15 years anything happens in our home, they sends the help.
From that
time when I took the kids home, they never released our hands.
They were
the strongholds for us. With their continuous help, counsel they freed me up
from a lot of weight.
Slowly
I've fell in love with my vocation and my workplace. I could trust them, and
this was more important than anything. Being a foster parent isn't an easy
thing, it requires profound preparation.
We are
filtered with a serious filter system, and if we pass that then we are
continuously trained. One many hundred hour long course, and a psychical and
aptitude test is the part of the basic requirement. While I was there I have
finished two training college and many courses.
Unbelievable
how serious they take that trained and loving hearted families would receive
the kids only. This honorable people were fighting in their whole life for the
kids, even if they attacked many times.
If one of
the foster parent made a mistake, then all of us marked as guilty and they are
attacking and judging us and our leaders immediately. If something happens in
one establishment, then all of them treated as problematic. This is silly and
malevolent behavior. Our job is not easy.
We need
encouraging and not baseless gossiping and critics. Please, everyone think
about that as starting, we are getting abused, wounded-souled, broken hearted
kids, whom we can give back at any time to their family, when the original
family members could get their life on track again. Everyone helps this
families to reach this, because it was never the goal to take away their
children forever but to help them back to their family.
Many
times it happens, that a foster parent raises a kid for years, then he/she
gives him/her back to the family. This shatters everyone of us, because we try
to give the best to them from everything.
We need
to be in contact with the family of the kids too. Every foster parent's goal is
to get the growing child the best education, to show him the values of life,
encourage them to be autonomous, and to create a home for them.
No one
ever hindered me in anything. I was able to move on a wide place, because they
knew that I'm doing my work from my whole heart. They never judged over me,
even more they encouraged me to go on even if I made mistakes. (But I have
learned from them.) When we got into really hard situations, then it became
more obvious how excellent characters are my coworkers.
We aren't
overpaid, when I was started then it was 27000 HUF ($123), and now its about
95000 HUF ($433) is my monthly net payment. We can not make savings, but we
never be in the need of anything. I personally absolutely satisfied, because
thanks to our prayers we got everything, always. We are managing what we have
received. We don't have unreachable desires. We teach the kids to study, work
and be satisfied with what they have. No one of us could do this work merely
for the money, because no one would be able to pay that much.
The local
governments, the court of guardians, and other special services helps us a lot.
I don't know whether my kids would have the chance to stay alive without them.
Together with the two kids with AIDS, once an Afghani refugee kid was with me
for a short while too. None of them was an easy situation, but at my workplace
they thought out this whole thing before decided. They never offended me and
never humiliated or criticized me.
They
always approaching me and the kids with reverence and sympathy. It is a fashion
today to criticize everything and everyone. Offend people and destroying them
with baseless backbiting is much easier than offering the friendship and a
helping hand. But finding the value in others, and spreading good things
instead of the bad ones is a much more noble thing to do. The people at my workplace
are the most prominent kind of people. I'm proud of them. Their heart and soul
are completely for the kids. I can ask for help boldly, they never refuses me.
It isn't a foolish thing to accept experienced and educated people's counsels.
And it's better to pray for them, and bless them instead of cursing and
gossiping about them.
God
chooses our leaders, and he knows their hearts and abilities well. Once I was
thinking: do I ever would sit into their chairs? Since them I don't offend
anyone not even in my head. I remember how happy they were when they renovated
our current home, or when they visited us and saw how well and orderly we are
living.
When
Andráska got his Hungarian citizenship, his legal guardian was there when he
received the papers. He was as happy if his original father would be there.
As I was
watching his face, I was ashamed by that how could I believe so many bad things
about them previously.
They were
fighting for Little Brave's citizenship for years, but when finally he got it,
then the department manager and the foster parent counselor was there too. It
was a great stone that fell off our heats, because after long years of working,
finally Little Brave could stay in Hungary permanently.
Today, I
love them very much.
The
guardians, the foster parent counselors, my leaders and the precious foster
parents day-by-day fighting for kids like mine to be able to provide them the
best from that amount of money that they have.
So let
this few line be a thanks to and a sign of gratitude for everything they did,
for everything they are doing for us and the kids.
I'm
praying for them, to don't give up in the face of the many hardship and
critics, and even if no one says “thank you” to them. I know, that they not
doing it for this. For them it is the same joy to see the welfare and success
of the kids as it is to me.
It is a
great privilege, that even if just for a short period of time from now on, but I
could be among them.
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