By his age of one could see on him that the lot of learning and having dealt with him a lot had borne its yield and fruit. He carved nicely and wonderful bows,sticks,butter-knives,and small boxes. He knew that I highly estimate and appreciate his hand-made works and gifts. He taught the same to Bátorka as well. There is nothing nicer than to see a child creating something. On their temples the sparkling sweat drops,loud remarks about each movement of their works. I cannot even imagine nicer for hours lasting scenes. One glance,one encouriging smile,one hug gives them force and strength in order to absolve and arrange any work. Even for weeks were they able to bore,carve and fix things. They knew that the person to whom it was given will keep these wonderful and fantastic objects for a life-long period. I have never been doubtful about the very fact,that they love me.truly. Only imagine please,that having struggled against pains and inspite of it they were keen on their works creating everything with a particular work and taking good care to do it. These minutes were more than anything!
He liked also drawing very much. At first he drew small people,then as his soul got free,he drew bigger figures and other objects. He was a very talented,dilligent and clever child. He liked to learn,but due to his reservedness at the beginning he had a few friends only in addition to Éva and Andika. He loved his elder brother the best of all. He was for him everything. He wanted to live only for him. If he knew that he comes he became better, he did everything I asked him. He wanted to please and suit only him. His brother on the other hand had heaped him with everything possible, with clothes,toys,tape-recorder,mobile phones/handies/ He took him everywhere wherever was possible. To the Amusement Park/fun fair/ zoo,or to their favourite place to the Mc Donalds. They two were on very good,friendly terms with each other,a true,constant love was between them. inspite of the very fact that they were stepbrothers only.He had an elder sister atb the country side, they regularly travelled
there,too. His elder brother supported him and it was he who kept the family together. He was a very simple,honest and dilligent boy. He had already worked when he was 15 years old. He had worked from very early at daybreak until late in the evening untiring,he often undertook works of 12/16 hours a day. Even his brothers and sisters,and we can thank a lot to him. Even until now if he comes home, he visits us. He cared the same with Bátorka as when Andráska lived..Andráska was an endless warm-hearted young boy. He took care of Bátorka,as if he were his beloved brother. The young boy could thank a lot to him. He protected and guarded him. They loved each other very much from the first moment Fortunately they got along well together.They played a lot together .Andráska would have given everything of him to everybody and he had actually done it. He was never envious. He handled the small children warm-heartedly and with understanding. Any kind of children,who had visited us he recognized in minutes how to handle them. His friend from his early childhood named Katinka,had often visited us. When she died her loss was a horrible blow for him,His soul became more and more ill as a result of it. He needed quite a long time to work it up,but he could never recover from these wounds When we seemed to relax finally the past had touched after us.The mother and the past of the family came after u sas a shadow.
.She made her way in our life.
The sod man had fought against us for years. He turned the rest of us having turned upside down.Both of us were afraid of him and we were in anguish. Threats came always. The evil gossips tortured our soles as a fire.. We were reported but this would not have got them anywhere
They loved me at my workplace,and they trusted me and even with the brothers and sisters of Andráska had I a very good contact
I could trust him,as he always kept the interest of the children before his eyes. He arranged the citizenship of the child. He was a fantastic brother. But fear had forced into us.. It was always there. Both of us were afraid of the very fact that he would be taken away. Nobody knew what happened in his heart. Only the permanent and continuous sadness was present in his eyes.Inspite of his young age he often behaved like a grown-upThe events had broken him a lot. Physically he had almost no problem,. God cured the wounds of both of us very slowly
After 5 war years did I recognize that he had changed. He started to speak about his past ,he let me coming closer to him. One day he told me,I love you so much you are for me like my mother! These moments helped me to forget the many fights and to be at war. In the 7th year we had a real mother and child contact between us
.
Sorry to say, one day he started to go his own way. He became tired of the perpetual fights and losses.The most dreadful was that he did not take his medicines regularly. At home he did not do any harm but from the school came more and more bad news. He was almost sent down from the school. I was crying and begged him not to continue it. Due to the anguish and the sadness my health run down so much that I had to take several medicines. I became ill with full of swellings.I begged him further to stop what he did,but I could not convince him about it. In the last year of being together I became tired and I suffered all over my body. He had spent the last half year at another foster-parent. After half a year he died. I know that today if I would have started again I would choose again him. We can thank the most for such children The worst for me was when he had stopped taking his medicines. You are fighting for the life of somebody,who does not want to live. Today I know why not.
He always wanted to get back to his family,but it did not happen. In his last days of his life the person
whom he loved the best and above all,stood near him. I can remember when I sat down
his bed at the hospital he only looked at me with his michievous smile,. In his eyes suffer and love were present We watched each other and a fantastic supernatural stillness and peace
overcame between us
At that time could I understand that this sweet child and Bátorka were never mine none of them are private ownership.
God entrusted the children to us in order to surround them with love and to be helper and model on their way. Each child is a possibility. One has to love.honour,encourage and teach them.
If he would have been perfect it would have been easier,but it was his life which had uncovered my imperfect and my mistakes. His being wounded me and all his falls had made me wealthy in that way that I could finally understand what does a child mean and what a responsibilty it means. It is all the same by whom the child was born and where,the essence is to take care of them according to our best knowledge. A child can be a present only. We all can be formed by them. I know that today I would not handle them as before,as sometimes I was too strict and I wanted to keep them alive at any price. I could not influence his
free will. But thanks God everything was to our advantage. At the end we became very much fond of each other. When he passed in his heart there was gratitude,love,pardon and peace! Inspite of all bad things, I was always proud of him. We both have learnt the most important thing ,namely to forgive and to love frankly. Nowadays most people do not know
This lovely and fantastic feeling. Even for us it took also years until we have learnt it. My dear boy lives in the heaven and he could finally find peace there. And I wish to remember the good things only! I can see his nice face and I am thankful that I could know him.
During his short life many people could like him. He was a special dear treasure in our life. It was the grace of God which gave is a great present. We shall meet in heaven!
I know that many parents suffer because of the bad decisions of their children,but first of all we have to live an exemplary life. We can get and ask for many helps We always had open doors in front of us and helping people were always around us.Many people were working for us for years at my workplace,at the congregation and at the foundation. Inspite of the many helps,our childen often made their bad decisions. Our task is to teach them to stand up if they fail .Sorry to say,there are many people, who deny/refuse/ their children.at such cases . It had happened to me and with Andráska as well.
Today I know that it is much better to lead,to encourage,to help,to advice people and to bring up somebody in fear,than to rule with a rod of iron. I was in mourning for Andráska for 2 years. Nobody knew how painful it was for me as I knew what could have been from him. But I have the hope as the end of the story will be written by the both of us loving heavenly
Father. I do not have any more mourning or not even any self-accusation in my heart.
Whenever I think of him I have his soft hands and lovely laugh in front of me At that time I am also smiling as I know that he is very happy
I did not loose him as he lives in the heaven,where the Lord had prepared a home for both of us. Since he had passed,I do not have any fear from the dying children.I am able to spend time with them even for weeks as through Andráska I have learnt to tolerate and to wait even in the most difficult situation as well
Glory to God for it!
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